Wednesday, December 28, 2016

Shoud I be honest with my children?

Aaha, that is a very tricky question. How much truth do I tell my children?
From early childhood your child might ask many embarassing questions in front of people or might ask questions the truth of which you might not want him or her to know. It is a natural reaction either to tell them the truth, a half truth or a lie.

We parents want to portray ourselves as the ideal, truthful and honest beings in front of our children, many a times hiding facts from them.  What could be more humiliating and distressing for a parent than to fall in their eyes? But, I have always followed the philosophy of  being an "open book".

ARE WE HONEST WITH OUR CHILDREN?
Very often we try to portray a nice picture of ourselves. A student of mine once came to me with a swollen lip and when I asked her, she said her mother had slapped but also told her to tell everyone that she had fallen down! She found it strange and asked me as to why her mother had forbidden her to tell the truth. I could not gather enough courage to tell her that her mother did not want anyone to know that she had hit her child.

This made me ponder why we tell our children to speak the truth but we ourselves lead double standards in life. It is not always easy to be honest with children because the moment we tell them the truth we become the villains and no parent can stand looking bad in their eyes.

Is it that difficult to be honest with them? Why don’t we make them understand that parents are, after all, human beings too and they are sure to make mistakes. Parents have a lot of experience of the age at whihc theri children are and that is why we try to be the perfect ones, telling the children that they have had a lot of experience and know things better. However, many a times, the children are correct and more honest.

It definitely is not easy to be honest with children. Once they know the truth you obviously are in a position when your child might remind you of that specific incident and that is something you will have to bear or say you are sorry about that. Because once they start to understand that parents are honest with them, life is much easier and bonding is strong. They learn to respect you. They confide in you and vice versa. If we have erred then we need to take responsibility for that and admit it as our mistake instead of pretending that, merely beacuse we are parents, we are always right.

Your child might ask for something which is beyond your budget, be honest and tell him that you cannot afford it. That answer obviously is not going to be liked by the child but sit and talk to him, expalin that there is a budget and you yourself have to let go of certain things. We want our children to understand these things but not make them feel that money is the most important thing in life or that unquestioning fuliffilent of their demands alone proves our love for them.

It is not that difficult nor too late to be honest with our children, they are ours and we show them the right direction to be taken in their life later on.




Thursday, December 22, 2016

Cambodia currency

Cambodia had Riel as their main currency but after the Khmer Rouge regime ended and UN Peacekeeping forces took over the administration in 1992-93, it brought US dollars into circulation and by the time they left, dollars became a part of Cambodia's economy.
The conversion rate is 4000 R to a dollar with minor fluctuations. The small notes are mainly used as change since no coins exist there. Riel is named after a small fish which is used in making prahoc, the strong flavor it imparts to a Cambodian dish.

Having lived there for five blissful years, I thought of posting pictures of those currency notes in my post.

100 Riel:
old note, but still in circulation.
Front view: Naag, Independence monument on one side, black stone statue on the other side
Rear view: students in front of school
new note in circulation in commemoration of the late King Father Nordorm Sihanouk

front view: seven headed naag, Buddha and a young former and revered King Father Nordorm Sihanouk
rear view: Silver Pagoda (Wat Preah Kheo), Buddha image on the side
500 Riel:
equivalent to 12.5 cents
old note but still in circulation
front view: Angkor Wat
rear view: Kizuna bridge over Mekong river (Kampong Cham)
 front view: present King of Cambodia, King Nordom Sihamoni
back view: Nak Loeung Bridge over Mekong in Phnom Penh ( Cambodia-Japan friendship bridge)
 
1000 Riel:
equivalent to 25 cents
 Front view: Southern gate at Bayon in Angkor
Rear side: Kampong Som harbor ( Sihanoukville)
 After the demise of King Father, Nordorm Sihanouk very limited number of notes to honor him came into circulation.
Front: Naga head, Royal Arms of Cambodia,  late King Nordorm Sihanouk
Rear side: Royal Palace, swan shaped float carrying King Sihanouk's body
I am also pasting few pictures of float with his casket. The public gathered in large numbers wearing the mourning dress code of white and black.
people waiting at Independence Monument
the procession arrives
swan shaped float carrying the casket

the casket
 head monk
public paying homage with folded hands
monks accompanying the casket
The Royal Palace was lighted for a month. Though no one could enter inside the palace, people thronged in huge numbers from across the country to pay homage to their beloved King.
 Royal Palace at night
public lighting incense sticks
The air around the palace became very smoky with the large numer of incense sticks burning.

2000 Riel:
equivalent to 50 cents
Front: Preah Vihear
This temple, a UNESCO World Heritage Site was at some time a disputed region between Thailand and Cambodia. It was under UN protection but was given custody to Cambodia in 2013.
rear view: Angkor Wat in the distance, farmers working in rice fields

5000 Riel:
equivalent to $1.25
Front: King Father Norodom Sihanouk
Back: Bridge in Siem Reap ( Kampong Kdei)

10000 Riel:
equivalent to $2.50
King Father Norodom Sihanouk
Rear view: Royal Palace at Phnom Penh and the famous boat race during the water festival

20000 Riel:
equivalent to $5
Front: Present King Norodom Sihamoni
Back: Aerial view of Angkor Wat, Bayon temple in Angkor Thom on the side

50000 Riel:
equivalent to $12.50
Front: King Norodom Sihanouk
 Back: Korker ruins, elephant sculpture
100000 Riel:
equivalent to $25
Front: King Norodom Sihanouk and Queen Mother Norodom Monineath, I forgot to take the rear view

the new note:
Front: Naga head, Royal Arms of Cambodia, King Father Norodom Sihanouk and Queen Mother Norodom Monineath
Back: King Father Norodom Sihanouk and Queen Mother Norodom Monineath blessing King Norodom Sihanouk, a stone statue of Garuda

Cambodia is fast erasing its bitter memories and marching towards a bright future.


Thursday, December 8, 2016

On bus from Phnom Penh to Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam

Ho Chi Minh City is the commercial capital of Vietnam. Earlier known as Saigon, it changed its name from Saigon in 1976 after the war got over in 1975. It is named after Ho Chi Minh, the Vietnamese revolutionary leader who was the prime minister and also the president of North Vietnam. He was later a part of Viet Cong and led the Viet Minh independence movement.

We decided a short break and travel to HMC by Mekong Express. I had never made an international travel by road in this region and visiting Ho Chi Minh provided a very good opportunity for me. It is around 5-7 hours journey, depending on the traffic.

Road travel is tiring for me but I think this is also the perfect way to see the countryside. The bus company arranged for a pick up from our place of stay. We waited for pick-up at 8 am and a mini bus came and dropped us at the Orussey market. The attendants did their paper work checking visa and putting a check mark against our names. The bags were tagged and a shoved inside the luggage cabinet. Having cleared everything, it was time to board the bus. The tickets already had seat numbers so there was nothing as first come first and grabbing the best seat!

All ready and we are off for the 6 hour drive to HMC
If you are a visitor to Cambodia , do not miss taking pictures of the monks going to seek alms from people.
The announcer told us that before we reach the country border, the bus would pass through Kandal province,  then cross Mekong, Pre Vang and Svay Reng. At the border after immigration we proceed to HMC.
After about three hours, Mekong, the biggest river in this region had to be crossed.

being ferried across Mekong, see the bridge under construction
A bridge was under construction so till that time, ferries were used to cross. I heard from a friend of mine that the bridge has been constructed and now you don't have to wait for being ferried.
You should take a visa before the journey as Vietnam does not have visa on arrival unlike Cambodia and other few countries.
this is when we came back from HMC
waiting for the ferry to come
last village in Cambodia
The bus stops a little distance before the passport control  at a small eatery. After that is the passport control, immigration and another hour of journey to HMC.
passport control
confirming the stamp on passport
our bus
casino
You see plenty of casinos at the border towards the Cambodia side. Gambling is not permitted in Vietnam so people come over to this side to play.
another casino
Wat on the way
The planned city of Ho Chi Minh welcomes you. And all this journey for just $13!!


Thursday, October 20, 2016

Angkor Wat, Cambodia

A visit to Cambodia or Camobodge or Kampuchea is never complete without seeing the spectacular Angkor Wat.  It is no doubt one of the largest religious and architectural wonders of the world.

The first time I visited Angkor, I had heard it is a huge temple but never did I imagine it would be so huge and the Angkor complex would be spread for miles and miles. It was declared UNESCO Heritage Site in 1992 and almost 2 million tourist visit it every year. It has occupied the center part of the Cambodian flag since 1850 when the first flag was designed. Over a period of years, it went through many changes but Angkor wat always stood in the center.


Flag of Kingdom of Cambodia

It is also seen in their 500 Riel currency note.



With so much to write about these temples, it is not going to be just one post, I will have to write one post on each temple I visited. There is still so much to see there and each time I happen to make a visit, I come back with more insight and knowledge. Angkor can be translated to mean a "city of temples". Angkor a deviation from the word Nagara (नगर )meaning a city in Sanskrit. Wat is derived from a French name Vat meaning a temple. So Angkor Wat means "a city of temples"
I have written about Kbal Spean and floating villages earlier.

Angkor Wat is just a small segment in this huge complex

History and some facts:
  • Built by Suryavarman II in the 12th century, it took 40 years and 20, 000 workers to complete Angkor Wat. This included the moat, walls and the monument.
  • Around 5 million tons of sand stone was used for construction.
  • The stones were brought from a quarry 70 kms away, dragging them all the way by elephants or using the water way.
  • This Wat is made on a marshy land so the ground had first to be pounded manually to make the foundation strong, otherwise it would just give way.
  • The temple occupies an area of 500 acres surrounded by a laterite wall.
  • The construction started from inside towards the outside, opposite to what is usually done.
  • One surprising feature about the architecture is that no mortar has been used in construction. The huge stones are fixed in a socket joint mechanism and remain intact todate. Also, vegetable compound has been used as a sealant.
  • The Angkor Kingdom was at its zenith by the 14th century till it was attacked by Thais in 1431 and having lost soon lost its charm by 1432.
  • Though Angkor Wat was built as a Hindu temple (Vishnu), but by 12th century when Theravada Buddhism spread to the region from Sri Lanka, most of the temples became Buddhist temples.
Few facts about the deviation in architecture:
  • A temple or a wat never faces in the western direction. West is a symbolism of setting sun and death in Hinduism. It remained a mystery for some time as to why Angkor Wat faces west. It has now been accepted that it was made with the intention of using it as a funerary for the King Suryavarman II. The west facing temple supports this understanding. 
  • The bas reliefs run in anti clockwise or counterclockwise direction which is opposite to the normal norm where they run clockwise.
Cambodia had Hinduism at the time Angkor Wat was built. The deity worshipped was Vishnu, after that came Mahayana Buddhism for a short time. By mid 12th century Shaivism, which was a dominant religious sect of Hinduism, came into practice. The famous Preah Vihar is a Shiva temple. Apart from this from 780 A.D. to 800 AD, there are said to be 1000 Shiva temples constructed in that region.

Since, Suryavarman II followed Vaishnavism, worshipping Lord Vishnu dominated so he had a huge monolith state of Vishnu installed at Angkor Wat which is worshipped even today. Around 1600 A.D., Angkor became a Thervada Buddhist monument.

The temple and its architecture:
The temple is built on Brahminical philosophy where mount Meru is the center surrounded by its peak. God reside in the central tower or sanctuary. Moat denotes the cosmic ocean. 

The temple entrance is guarded by two majestic lions on either side and a seven hooded serpent. All around it is a moat. This moat is designed so that during floods the water is diverted and drained away from the temple so that it is not damaged.

naga and lion at entrance

lion

Brahma had lions at his doorway as guardians. Not only Angkor Wat but other temples too have lions at their entrance.

library, central tower and the moat

Well, what is a wat and is it different than a pagoda ? Pagodas are learning centers, meeting places in addition to place of worship.  Wat in addition to being a place of worship, having meeting rooms, place for monks to stay also have stupas containing the remains of holy people.
The body of a deceased ruler is left in state for a period of 3 months in a wat in Cambodia before it is finally cremated.

naga balustrade and moat

the gates at the rear end, moat on the side

The moat is 200 meters wide and runs all around the temple. the total length of moat is around five and half kms. The height of temple to the pinnacle of central or the main tower is said to be 213 meters. The causeway is 200 meters long made of sandstone.

If you stand across the moat, you shall see five gates.
The central gate was for entry of the Kings, on either side of this main entrance the two gates were for public servants and Commander-in-Chief and then on their either side was entrance for elephants and horses, the top of which have collapsed.

You enter through a gate and a huge monolith statue of Vishnu the preserver, erected by Suryavarman, II greets you.  Clothed in yellow robes with eight arms under an umbrella, this image is said to be protecting the monument.

Vishnu at the west gate
Devaraja (देवराजा ) cult of Hinduism was in practice where a king is not only the head of state but is also considered an embodiment of Lord Vishnu or Shiva. Hence, the image is also said to be an impersonification of King Suryavarman II.

Palm fruit, the national fruit of Cambodia lines the side of causeway. The edge of causeway is lined with a naga or serpent balustrade.

naga balustrade


Another interesting feature I found were holes in stones in the causeway. I asked my guide and he said they were made at the time when the temple was built. It made transporting stones easy by placing logs and lifting them.

Two libraries for monks stand on either side

library

But before we go inside, the first vision you get of Angkor is a central main tower surrounded by 2 smaller ones.

At the end of causeway, the naga holds its head up forming a seven-hooded canopy.


Infact, there are four small towers or prangs and one central tower forming a quincunx. This is a term which I have often used in my earlier posts on Ayutthya temples. The central and the heighest tower represents Mount Meru, with four smaller towers reprsenting continents and the moat representing the ocean

  • The height from temple ground to the pinnacle of central or the main tower is said to be 213 meters.
  • Another interesting feature is that the temple is made over 3 levels: outermost level has the least height and as the temple progresses inwards, the height too increases.
lily pond on side

in front of one of the side gates

seven hooded naga on the side, almost falling bas relief

West gopura of outer enclosure, west face of temple

east side of temple



Vishnu on pediment at entrance

broken pediment lies on ground

naga

a stupa on side, maybe it was later addition

Architecture inside the temple:
Apsaras or celestial goddesses can be seen all over the temple walls.

Apsaras on the walls

There are said to be around 1,700 apsaras adorning the walls of Angkor Wat. The most interesting feature of these apsaras is that none of the apsaras have similar crowns over their head. Each has a different one!
Putting all pictures here is not possible so I have another post for Apsaras in Angkor Wat

The famous apsara danceers of Cambodia still wear that style of head gear.

On entering, anticlockwise in the corridor is the first level or the outermost tier. It has bas reliefs which are said to be the world's longest continuous bas reliefs. No wonder it is called the gallery of bas relief. The roof throughout the temple is arched, the stones being put together without any mortar. They probably used a natural gum.
I am just giving a glimpse of bas relief, detailed bas reliefs is on another post.

The gallery is cordoned from wall to stop tourists from touching the work.

bas reliefs run from one end of the corridor to another

Before going to the second level, there is a gallery called the gallery with thousand Buddha, (Preah PoanPreah is temple and Poan is thousand in Khmer) with plenty of damaged Buddha images.



Buddha images

more Buddha images
Though Angkor Wat was built as a Hindu temple but as I have already mentioned it became a Buddhist place and continues being so. Either the images above were damaged or were a result of looting I do not know.

The corridor connects to second level.
Second level has interlacing corridors with many apsaras on walls.

a very typical bas-relief seen throughout the temple

It also gives a wonderful view of central tower which is  65 meters and is highest of all towers. It was said to be the tallest structure in the city.

Central tower


There are people dressed up .... and you can take a picture of you with them.

Apsaras on wall in the second level near central tower


Very steep iron steps lead to the third level. The elevation is at about 50 degrees!
But before that you need to be properly dressed. No short dresses including shorts and sleeveless is permitted.
There are twelve stairs representing twelve months of the year. The stairs were too steep which proved quite risky so they now have an iron stairs on top of the stone ones.

Climbing up is not that bad but coming down is very frightening especially if you vertigo. The best way is to come the way you climbed, that way you do not get to see the ground.

 a Buddha image in a corner
The top level represents heaven and only the King and high priests worshiped Lord Vishnu. Earlier, the general public did not come to this level.


corridor at the third level
view from above

reclining Buddha in the main central tower of third level

It is said that in the early days, a golden image of Vishnu stood on the shoulders of Garuda.

a morning scene with monks

lost kingdom

The view from top gives ample oppotunity to take pictures.
Retracing steps to exit, you pass through second level corridor with many more images of Buddha at corners.


an alcove with Buddha images

Buddha image in a corner

Another Buddha image

Throughout the temple, the arched roof specially caught my attention. Securing huge blocks of sandstone without any mortar using natural resins!

bas relief on top of door of corridor

bas relief of Ravana lifting Mount Kailash

the roof too has beautiful work

dancing apsaras on roof

inscription tablet

another inscription slab

Only super masters in architecture and super craftmanship could have managed to built some thing like Angkor Wat more than 800 years ago.